To succeed, you need self-confidence. Luckily, self-confidence is easy to obtain.
"SELF-CONFIDENCE is nothing more than belief in one's ability to decide and in one's decisions." -- L. Ron Hubbard
Everyone
has made bad decisions: choosing friends who stab you in the
back, saying the wrong thing to your spouse, spending your money
unwisely. Yet to succeed and have self-confidence, you must make
decisions.
When you are afraid of decisions, you build up stress,
create confusion and make people wait. When you put off making
decisions, you miss important opportunities.
The worst way
to make decisions is to take a vote. Asking for people's
opinions is like saying, "I don't have any self-confidence.
Please tell me what to decide."
The first thing you need to decide is that you can make good decisions.
And how do you make good decisions?
"Given information and the purpose, anybody can make a decision." -- L. Ron Hubbard
Decision
making is like playing cards. If you know the cards each player
is holding, you make great decisions and win all the money.
To make good decisions, you simply need enough information. 15 Questions to Answer Before Making a Decision
You
can make all of your own decisions on your own. From starting a
business to changing careers, buying a house to choosing a
vacation. Any decision is easy to make.
First, list all of your options.
For
example, Steve is trying to decide about buying a new car. His
choice is not "to buy or not to buy." In this case, he actually
has three choices: 1) buy the $60,000 new BMW, 2) buy the $30,000
used Acura, 3) fix up and keep the old Toyota.
As another
example, Bob asks Dorothy to marry him. Dorothy looks it over
and decides she has four choices: 1) Marry Bob immediately, 2)
Marry Bob after a long engagement, 3) Don't marry Bob, but keep dating
him, 4) Don't marry Bob and stop dating him.
Once you have
listed out your options, find the answers to these 15 questions
for each of your options. You will know some of these answers and
can find out the others.
Somewhere along the line, your best correct decision will be obvious.
1. What is the goal or purpose of each option?
Steve
writes, "1) The purpose of the BMW is to ride in style and
luxury while impressing the heck out of my friends. 2) The purpose of
the Acura is to have comfortable transportation without big loan
payments. 3) The purpose of the Toyota is to have good reliable
transportation at a small cost."
Dorothy examines the
purpose of each of her options. She writes, "1) The purpose of
marrying Bob immediately is to move on with our lives together.
2) The purpose of a long engagement is to leave plenty of room
for me to change my mind. 3) The purpose of not marrying, but
continuing to date Bob is to learn more about him without a commitment.
4) The purpose of not seeing Bob any longer is to look for
someone else. Well, I can eliminate this last option as I'm sick
of looking and really do love Bob."
2. How do the purposes of each option align with your goals?
Steve
writes, "My goal is to drive something comfortable I can be
proud of, but not consume all of my extra money. The Acura fits
that goal best."
Dorothy writes, "I have the goal to get married, so the first two options line up with that goal."
3. What are the statistics for each choice? Each of your options has statistics.
Steve can learn maintenance costs, resale value costs, miles per gallon and so on.
Dorothy
can check out Bob's statistics in life. How well does he keep
his word? How much money does he make? What happened with his
past relationships?
When hiring an employee, his or her statistics in life and at the last job are important.
When deciding on a job, a career, a relationship, a new business or anything, you can find the track records.
4. Finances?
Two vital questions: What will each option cost? How much money
will each return? The cost is not a barrier if the predicted
return is greater than the cost.
5. Sequences? Most
people forget to look at the exact steps involved with each
solution. For example, you are notified by mail,
"Congratulations! You have won either a deluxe AM/FM radio, $500 cash, a
60" TV or a cruise to Alaska!" You decide to go claim your
prize. You never read the fine print or ask what steps are
involved. After a four-hour Mexico condo timeshare sales pitch,
you get a coupon for a cheap radio.
"If I decide to buy
the BMW, what happens next?" You might realize you need to wait
two months before delivery. You also realize you need to get
insurance, pay registration fees, sell your Toyota and so on.
When
interviewing job applicants, ask "If I asked you to start on
Monday, what would you do?" Some applicants say, "Well, I might not
have a car. . ." or "My bird has been sick . . ." A smart job
applicant says, "I'll show up five minutes early!"
6. Is this choice legal and ethical?
Is it fair to everyone involved? Will you be proud of your
choice in the future? Would you have any problem telling a judge
or TV reporter about your choice?
7. What is the probability of success? For example, how many BMW or Acura buyers are happy enough to buy a similar car? How long will the Toyota last?
Estimate the odds of success for each choice if you have no concrete data.
Dorothy
estimates the odds of a successful marriage to Bob are higher
with her second option, if she has a long engagement, than the
other two remaining options.
8. Do I have the resources? Resources
include people, space, skill, knowledge, money and time. Do you
have the necessary means for each choice?
9. What are the end results?
If everything went smoothly, how would each choice turn out?
What would the results be? How would it change things in a year
or two?
10. What do others want me to do and why? As
your choice probably affects other people, you want to know what
choice they want you to make. More importantly, why they want
you to make it.
Make a list of everyone who is affected and what you believe they want.
You are not asking them to help with your decision, you are merely gathering information.
11. What are the potential gains and benefits? List each of these categories for each choice.
12. What are the potential losses and liabilities? Worst-case scenarios and risks. For each risk, look at how you can protect yourself or your group.
For
example, David is considering a major expansion of his hair
brush company. He looks at the risks and realizes he could end
with too many hair brushes in storage. To protect his group, he
realizes he needs to expand his marketing and sales before
increasing his manufacturing to ensure he won't have a storage
problem.
Dorothy evaluates the risks of a marriage and
realizes a long engagement has a much lower risk of divorce than a
fast marriage.
13. What are all the barriers and difficulties for each choice? What gets in the road of each choice. Lack of money? No one else wants it? Not enough time? Fear?
David sees months of hard work to cause the expansion.
Steve sees no difficulties in buying the BMW or Acura, but lists several problems with repairing his old Toyota.
Dorothy realizes Bob might not like the third option of just dating, but would support a long or short engagement.
14. What would be easy and effortless about each choice? Some choices involve no barriers at all.
15. What do I really want?
What am I willing to do? What interests me? Which choice turns
me on and makes me happiest? Why do I feel like doing it?
This
last question is the deal breaker. Interest and enthusiasm are
vital to a decision ending up being the right decision.
An
okay decision with lots of interest and enthusiasm is more
successful than a brilliant decision with no interest or
enthusiasm.
You never regret a correct decision. It stands
the test of time. A series of correct decisions will build your
certainty and confidence. And once those around you learn you are
usually right, they follow your lead without hesitation.
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