To succeed, you need        self-confidence. Luckily, self-confidence is easy to        obtain.
"SELF-CONFIDENCE is nothing more than belief        in one's ability to decide and in one's decisions." -- L. Ron        Hubbard
Everyone
 has made bad decisions: choosing friends who        stab you in the 
back, saying the wrong thing to your spouse, spending your        money 
unwisely. Yet to succeed and have self-confidence, you must make        
decisions.
When you are afraid of decisions, you build up stress,
        create confusion and make people wait. When you put off making 
decisions,        you miss important opportunities.
The worst way
 to make decisions        is to take a vote. Asking for people's 
opinions is like saying, "I don't        have any self-confidence. 
Please tell me what to decide."
The first        thing you need to decide is that you can make good decisions.
And        how do you make good decisions?
"Given information and        the purpose, anybody can make a decision." -- L. Ron        Hubbard
Decision
 making is like playing cards. If you know the        cards each player 
is holding, you make great decisions and win all the        money.
To make good decisions, you simply need enough information.        15 Questions to Answer Before Making a        Decision
You
 can make all of        your own decisions on your own. From starting a 
business to changing        careers, buying a house to choosing a 
vacation. Any decision is easy to        make.
First, list all of your options. 
For
 example, Steve        is trying to decide about buying a new car. His 
choice is not "to buy or        not to buy." In this case, he actually 
has three choices: 1) buy the        $60,000 new BMW, 2) buy the $30,000
 used Acura, 3) fix up and keep the old        Toyota.
As another
 example, Bob asks Dorothy to marry him. Dorothy        looks it over 
and decides she has four choices: 1) Marry Bob immediately,        2) 
Marry Bob after a long engagement, 3) Don't marry Bob, but keep dating  
      him, 4) Don't marry Bob and stop dating him.
Once you have 
listed        out your options, find the answers to these 15 questions 
for each of your        options. You will know some of these answers and
 can find out the        others.
Somewhere along the line, your best correct decision will        be obvious.
1. What is the goal or purpose of each option?        
Steve
 writes, "1) The purpose of the BMW is to ride in style        and 
luxury while impressing the heck out of my friends. 2) The purpose of   
     the Acura is to have comfortable transportation without big loan 
payments.        3) The purpose of the Toyota is to have good reliable 
transportation at a        small cost."
Dorothy examines the 
purpose of each of her options.        She writes, "1) The purpose of 
marrying Bob immediately is to move on with        our lives together. 
2) The purpose of a long engagement is to leave plenty        of room 
for me to change my mind. 3) The purpose of not marrying, but        
continuing to date Bob is to learn more about him without a commitment. 
4)        The purpose of not seeing Bob any longer is to look for 
someone else.        Well, I can eliminate this last option as I'm sick 
of looking and really        do love Bob."
2. How do the purposes of each option align with        your goals? 
Steve
 writes, "My goal is to drive something        comfortable I can be 
proud of, but not consume all of my extra money. The        Acura fits 
that goal best."
Dorothy writes, "I have the goal to get        married, so the first two options line up with that goal."
3.        What are the statistics for each choice? Each of your options has        statistics. 
Steve can learn maintenance costs, resale value costs,        miles per gallon and so on. 
Dorothy
 can check out Bob's statistics        in life. How well does he keep 
his word? How much money does he make? What        happened with his 
past relationships?
When hiring an employee, his        or her statistics in life and at the last job are important.
When        deciding on a job, a career, a relationship, a new business or anything,        you can find the track records.
4. Finances?
 Two vital        questions: What will each option cost? How much money 
will each return?        The cost is not a barrier if the predicted 
return is greater than the        cost.
5. Sequences? Most
 people forget to look at the exact        steps involved with each 
solution. For example, you are notified by mail,        
"Congratulations! You have won either a deluxe AM/FM radio, $500 cash, a
        60" TV or a cruise to Alaska!" You decide to go claim your 
prize. You        never read the fine print or ask what steps are 
involved. After a        four-hour Mexico condo timeshare sales pitch, 
you get a coupon for a cheap        radio.
"If I decide to buy 
the BMW, what happens next?" You might        realize you need to wait 
two months before delivery. You also realize you        need to get 
insurance, pay registration fees, sell your Toyota and so        on.
When
 interviewing job applicants, ask "If I asked you to start        on 
Monday, what would you do?" Some applicants say, "Well, I might not     
   have a car. . ." or "My bird has been sick . . ." A smart job 
applicant        says, "I'll show up five minutes early!" 
6. Is this choice        legal and ethical?
 Is it fair to everyone involved? Will you be proud        of your 
choice in the future? Would you have any problem telling a judge        
or TV reporter about your choice?
7. What is the probability of        success? For example, how many BMW or Acura buyers are happy enough to        buy a similar car? How long will the Toyota last?
Estimate the odds        of success for each choice if you have no concrete data. 
Dorothy
        estimates the odds of a successful marriage to Bob are higher 
with her        second option, if she has a long engagement, than the 
other two remaining        options.
8. Do I have the resources? Resources
 include        people, space, skill, knowledge, money and time. Do you 
have the necessary        means for each choice?
9. What are the end results?
 If        everything went smoothly, how would each choice turn out? 
What would the        results be? How would it change things in a year 
or two?
10.        What do others want me to do and why? As
 your choice probably affects        other people, you want to know what
 choice they want you to make. More        importantly, why they want 
you to make it.
Make a list of everyone        who is affected and what you believe they want.
You are not asking        them to help with your decision, you are merely gathering        information.
11. What are the potential gains and benefits?        List each of these categories for each choice.
12. What are the        potential losses and liabilities? Worst-case scenarios and risks. For        each risk, look at how you can protect yourself or your group.
For
        example, David is considering a major expansion of his hair 
brush company.        He looks at the risks and realizes he could end 
with too many hair brushes        in storage. To protect his group, he 
realizes he needs to expand his        marketing and sales before 
increasing his manufacturing to ensure he won't        have a storage 
problem.
Dorothy evaluates the risks of a marriage        and 
realizes a long engagement has a much lower risk of divorce than a      
  fast marriage.
13. What are all the barriers and difficulties        for each choice? What gets in the road of each choice. Lack of money?        No one else wants it? Not enough time? Fear?
David sees months of        hard work to cause the expansion.
Steve sees no difficulties in        buying the BMW or Acura, but lists several problems with repairing his old        Toyota.
Dorothy realizes Bob might not like the third option of        just dating, but would support a long or short engagement.
14.        What would be easy and effortless about each choice? Some choices        involve no barriers at all.
15. What do I really want?
 What        am I willing to do? What interests me? Which choice turns 
me on and makes        me happiest? Why do I feel like doing it? 
This
 last question is        the deal breaker. Interest and enthusiasm are 
vital to a decision ending        up being the right decision.
An
 okay decision with lots of interest        and enthusiasm is more 
successful than a brilliant decision with no        interest or 
enthusiasm.
You never regret a correct decision. It        stands
 the test of time. A series of correct decisions will build your        
certainty and confidence. And once those around you learn you are 
usually        right, they follow your lead without hesitation.
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