As a child, were you given a gift and then ordered how to play with it?
Were some of your possessions under someone else's control?
Are some of your current possessions still not under your control?
L. Ron Hubbard wrote in his book, Child Dianetics*: "When you give a child something, it's his. It's not still yours. Clothes, toys, quarters, what he has been given, must remain under his exclusive control. "So he tears up his shirt, wrecks his bed, breaks his fire engine. It's none of your business.
"How would you like to have somebody give you a Christmas present and then tell you, day after day thereafter, what you are to do with it and even punish you if you failed to care for it the way the donor thinks? You'd wreck that donor and ruin that present. You know you would.
"The child wrecks your nerves when you do it to him. That's revenge. He cries. He pesters you. He breaks your things. He 'accidentally' spills his milk. And he wrecks the possession on purpose about which he is so often cautioned. Why? "Because he is fighting for his own self-determinism, his own right to own and make his weight felt on his environment.
This 'possession' is another channel by which he can be controlled. So he has to fight the possession and the controller."
For example,
you give your son a new bike and he leaves it out in the rain that night. If you say, "I'm taking away your bike because you can't take care of it," he makes the rest of your day miserable. If instead, you put your son in control of the bike, everyone has a happy day. "It's your bike, but you might want to dry it off and keep it in the garage at night so it doesn't get rusty. Do whatever you want." *Dianetics: From the Greek dia (through) and noos (soul), thus "through the soul." Dianetics counseling finds incidents in the past to explain personal problems in the present. Based on the NY Times best-selling book, Dianetics: The Modern Science of Mental Health (www.dianetics.org).
Giving Control to Adults
The above fact is also true with adults and helps explain why some people get upset.
For example,
Bob the Boss hires Fred to clean his office. Bob says, "I was watching how you hold your mop. Both hands should be in the middle of the handle, not one on top. The cleanser you used in the bathroom is blue and it should be green. Also, the tread on your shoes might leave black marks so wear white shoes tomorrow." Every morning is like this. Bob never really gives the job to Fred. One day, Fred writes "I QUIT" in black marker on the bathroom mirror. Bob the Boss says, "You just can't get good help these days."
Another example would be a friend loans you some money so you can buy a car. But your friend then insists you buy a certain car, tries to control how you drive the car and so on. Some parents try to control an adult child's career.
For example,
the parent says, "I'll pay for your college education if you become a doctor." The parent is then enraged when the son or daughter quits college to hitchhike across Europe or become a professional surfer.
When you give a job, an idea, a gift, money or a life to someone, you must let them control it.
Child or adult, nobody wants strings attached.
How Drugs and Toxins Hurt Your Success
Definition of "Toxin" = A poisonous substance.
You are bombarded with toxins every day. Air pollution, water pollution and food chemicals get into your body. Toxins are in cleaning products, paint, fertilizers, construction material, bug sprays, even perfumes.
Prescription drugs are also a major source of toxins that may solve one health problem, but can cause many new problems. Perhaps the worst toxins of all are street drugs: marijuana, cocaine, LSD, ecstasy, meth and so on.
L. Ron Hubbard discovered three important facts about toxins:
1. Toxins, especially street drugs, have long-term effects on your personality. Even after you stop using drugs, you are never your old self. You may be less alert or less intelligent than before you took drugs. You may not be as patient, friendly or kind. Life might seem less interesting and more stressful.
"Drugs can apparently change the attitude of a person from his original personality to one secretly harboring* hostilities and hatreds he does not permit to show on the surface." -- L. Ron Hubbard from "Clear Body, Clear Mind" (*harboring: holding in the mind; maintaining.)
Can you remember how you felt before you took drugs? Were you more alert? Was it easier to learn? Were you happier? Maybe you can't remember because drugs and toxins tend to cloud your memory.
2. When you get toxins in your body, bits of these toxins do not leave. Because they are stored in your body, they can enter your blood at any time to hurt your health, change your personality and block your ability to think. "In the 1970s, working with cases of individuals who had been drug users, and in a study of their physical symptoms and behavioral patterns, I made a startling discovery.
"People who had been on LSD at some earlier time sometimes had reactions which appeared to act as if they had just taken more LSD!"
"LSD apparently stays in the system, lodging in the tissues, and mainly the fatty tissues of the body, and is liable to go into action again--giving the person unpredictable 'trips'--even years after the person has come off LSD." "Thus it seems that residues* of any or all of these hostile biochemical* substances apparently have the potential of remaining in the system, getting caught up in the tissues and remaining there, unsuspected, even after they have supposedly been eliminated from the body years earlier."-- L. Ron Hubbard from "Clear Body, Clear Mind" (*residues: the parts of something that remains) (*biochemical: the chemicals of a living system)
Clinical tests and medical autopsies prove that toxins do, in fact, get embedded in body tissues.
3. You can remove the stored toxins from your body through an intense program of daily exercise, sweating and nutrition.
The program is called the Purification program. "How does the Purification program work? "Running is done to get the blood circulating deeper into the tissues where toxic residuals are lodged and thus act to loosen and release the accumulated harmful deposits and get them moving. "Very important, then, is that the running is immediately followed by sweating in the sauna to flush out the accumulations which have now been dislodged.
"Regular nutrition and supplemental nutrition in the form of megavitamin* and mineral dosages and extra quantities of oil are a vital factor in helping the body to flush out toxins and to repair and rebuild the areas that have been affected by drugs and other toxic residuals.
"A proper schedule with enough rest is mandatory, as the body will be undergoing change and repair throughout the program.
"These actions, carried out on a very stringently monitored basis, are apparently accomplishing a detoxification of the entire system, to the renewed health and vigor of the individual." -- L. Ron Hubbard from "Clear Body, Clear Mind" (*megavitamin dosages: large amounts of vitamins) Results During the Purification program, most people can tell which toxins are moving out of their bodies.
For example, On Day 2 your mouth might feel numb as the drugs, given to you by your dentist, are sweated out. On Days 4, 5 and 6 you might feel high from the marijuana you smoked in college. On Day 7, as they flush out, you might smell the paint chemicals that you inhaled from your days as a painter.
While you are doing the Purification program, you eliminate traces of toxins every day. You experience many ups and downs as the drugs and chemicals are rinsed out of your body. And then one day, near the end of your program, you feel cleaner and healthier than you have in years!
All of the 250,000+ people, who have completed the Purification program, report one or more of the following benefits.
□ Improved physical condition
□ Clearer thinking
□ More positive outlook on life
□ Increased self-confidence
□ Younger feeling
□ More alert
□ Increased energy level
□ Improved smell, taste, hearing, touch and vision Flushing out the drugs and toxins stored in your body significantly increases your chances of success.
You are bombarded with toxins every day. Air pollution, water pollution and food chemicals get into your body. Toxins are in cleaning products, paint, fertilizers, construction material, bug sprays, even perfumes.
Prescription drugs are also a major source of toxins that may solve one health problem, but can cause many new problems. Perhaps the worst toxins of all are street drugs: marijuana, cocaine, LSD, ecstasy, meth and so on.
L. Ron Hubbard discovered three important facts about toxins:
1. Toxins, especially street drugs, have long-term effects on your personality. Even after you stop using drugs, you are never your old self. You may be less alert or less intelligent than before you took drugs. You may not be as patient, friendly or kind. Life might seem less interesting and more stressful.
"Drugs can apparently change the attitude of a person from his original personality to one secretly harboring* hostilities and hatreds he does not permit to show on the surface." -- L. Ron Hubbard from "Clear Body, Clear Mind" (*harboring: holding in the mind; maintaining.)
Can you remember how you felt before you took drugs? Were you more alert? Was it easier to learn? Were you happier? Maybe you can't remember because drugs and toxins tend to cloud your memory.
2. When you get toxins in your body, bits of these toxins do not leave. Because they are stored in your body, they can enter your blood at any time to hurt your health, change your personality and block your ability to think. "In the 1970s, working with cases of individuals who had been drug users, and in a study of their physical symptoms and behavioral patterns, I made a startling discovery.
"People who had been on LSD at some earlier time sometimes had reactions which appeared to act as if they had just taken more LSD!"
"LSD apparently stays in the system, lodging in the tissues, and mainly the fatty tissues of the body, and is liable to go into action again--giving the person unpredictable 'trips'--even years after the person has come off LSD." "Thus it seems that residues* of any or all of these hostile biochemical* substances apparently have the potential of remaining in the system, getting caught up in the tissues and remaining there, unsuspected, even after they have supposedly been eliminated from the body years earlier."-- L. Ron Hubbard from "Clear Body, Clear Mind" (*residues: the parts of something that remains) (*biochemical: the chemicals of a living system)
Clinical tests and medical autopsies prove that toxins do, in fact, get embedded in body tissues.
3. You can remove the stored toxins from your body through an intense program of daily exercise, sweating and nutrition.
The program is called the Purification program. "How does the Purification program work? "Running is done to get the blood circulating deeper into the tissues where toxic residuals are lodged and thus act to loosen and release the accumulated harmful deposits and get them moving. "Very important, then, is that the running is immediately followed by sweating in the sauna to flush out the accumulations which have now been dislodged.
"Regular nutrition and supplemental nutrition in the form of megavitamin* and mineral dosages and extra quantities of oil are a vital factor in helping the body to flush out toxins and to repair and rebuild the areas that have been affected by drugs and other toxic residuals.
"A proper schedule with enough rest is mandatory, as the body will be undergoing change and repair throughout the program.
"These actions, carried out on a very stringently monitored basis, are apparently accomplishing a detoxification of the entire system, to the renewed health and vigor of the individual." -- L. Ron Hubbard from "Clear Body, Clear Mind" (*megavitamin dosages: large amounts of vitamins) Results During the Purification program, most people can tell which toxins are moving out of their bodies.
For example, On Day 2 your mouth might feel numb as the drugs, given to you by your dentist, are sweated out. On Days 4, 5 and 6 you might feel high from the marijuana you smoked in college. On Day 7, as they flush out, you might smell the paint chemicals that you inhaled from your days as a painter.
While you are doing the Purification program, you eliminate traces of toxins every day. You experience many ups and downs as the drugs and chemicals are rinsed out of your body. And then one day, near the end of your program, you feel cleaner and healthier than you have in years!
All of the 250,000+ people, who have completed the Purification program, report one or more of the following benefits.
□ Improved physical condition
□ Clearer thinking
□ More positive outlook on life
□ Increased self-confidence
□ Younger feeling
□ More alert
□ Increased energy level
□ Improved smell, taste, hearing, touch and vision Flushing out the drugs and toxins stored in your body significantly increases your chances of success.
15 Questions for Making Great Decisions
To succeed, you need self-confidence.
Luckily, self-confidence is easy to obtain.
"SELF-CONFIDENCE is nothing more than belief in one's ability to decide and in one's decisions." -- L. Ron Hubbard Everyone has made bad decisions: choosing friends who stab you in the back, saying the wrong thing to your spouse, spending your money unwisely. Yet to succeed and have self-confidence, you must make decisions.
When you are afraid of decisions, you build up stress, create confusion and make people wait.
When you put off making decisions, you miss important opportunities.
The worst way to make decisions is to take a vote.
Asking for people's opinions is like saying, "I don't have any self-confidence.
Please tell me what to decide." The first thing you need to decide is that you can make good decisions, And how do you make good decisions?
"Given information and the purpose, anybody can make a decision." -- L. Ron Hubbard Decision making is like playing cards. If you know the cards each player is holding, you make great decisions and win all the money.
To make good decisions, you simply need enough information.
15 Questions to Answer Before Making a Decision
You can make all of your own decisions on your own.
From starting a business to changing careers, buying a house to choosing a vacation. Any decision is easy to make.
First, list all of your options.
For example,
Steve is trying to decide about buying a new car. His choice is not "to buy or not to buy." In this case, he actually has three choices:
1) buy the $60,000 new BMW,
2) buy the $30,000 used Acura,
3) fix up and keep the old Toyota.
As another example, Bob asks Dorothy to marry him. Dorothy looks it over and decides she has four choices:
1) Marry Bob immediately,
2) Marry Bob after a long engagement,
3) Don't marry Bob, but keep dating him,
4) Don't marry Bob and stop dating him.
Once you have listed out your options, find the answers to these 15 questions for each of your options.
You will know some of these answers and can find out the others. Somewhere along the line, your best correct decision will be obvious.
1. What is the goal or purpose of each option? Steve writes, "1) The purpose of the BMW is to ride in style and luxury while impressing the heck out of my friends.
2) The purpose of the Acura is to have comfortable transportation without big loan payments.
3) The purpose of the Toyota is to have good reliable transportation at a small cost.
"Dorothy examines the purpose of each of her options. She writes,
"1) The purpose of marrying Bob immediately is to move on with our lives together.
2) The purpose of a long engagement is to leave plenty of room for me to change my mind.
3) The purpose of not marrying, but continuing to date Bob is to learn more about him without a commitment.
4) The purpose of not seeing Bob any longer is to look for someone else.
Well, I can eliminate this last option as I'm sick of looking and really do love Bob."
2. How do the purposes of each option align with your goals? Steve writes, "My goal is to drive something comfortable I can be proud of, but not consume all of my extra money. The Acura fits that goal best." Dorothy writes, "I have the goal to get married, so the first two options line up with that goal."
3. What are the statistics for each choice? Each of your options has statistics. Steve can learn maintenance costs, resale value costs, miles per gallon and so on. Dorothy can check out Bob's statistics in life. How well does he keep his word? How much money does he make? What happened with his past relationships? When hiring an employee, his or her statistics in life and at the last job are important. When deciding on a job, a career, a relationship, a new business or anything, you can find the track records.
4. Finances? Two vital questions: What will each option cost? How much money will each return? The cost is not a barrier if the predicted return is greater than the cost.
5. Sequences? Most people forget to look at the exact steps involved with each solution. For example, you are notified by mail, "Congratulations! You have won either a deluxe AM/FM radio, $500 cash, a 60" TV or a cruise to Alaska!" You decide to go claim your prize. You never read the fine print or ask what steps are involved. After a four-hour Mexico condo timeshare sales pitch, you get a coupon for a cheap radio.
"If I decide to buy the BMW, what happens next?" You might realize you need to wait two months before delivery. You also realize you need to get insurance, pay registration fees, sell your Toyota and so on.
When interviewing job applicants, ask "If I asked you to start on Monday, what would you do?" Some applicants say, "Well, I might not have a car. . ." or "My bird has been sick . . ." A smart job applicant says, "I'll show up five minutes early!"
6. Is this choice legal and ethical? Is it fair to everyone involved? Will you be proud of your choice in the future? Would you have any problem telling a judge or TV reporter about your choice?
7. What is the probability of success? For example, how many BMW or Acura buyers are happy enough to buy a similar car? How long will the Toyota last? Estimate the odds of success for each choice if you have no concrete data. Dorothy estimates the odds of a successful marriage to Bob are higher with her second option, if she has a long engagement, than the other two remaining options.
8. Do I have the resources? Resources include people, space, skill, knowledge, money and time. Do you have the necessary means for each choice?
9. What are the end results? If everything went smoothly, how would each choice turn out? What would the results be? How would it change things in a year or two?
10. What do others want me to do and why? As your choice probably affects other people, you want to know what choice they want you to make. More importantly, why they want you to make it. Make a list of everyone who is affected and what you believe they want. You are not asking them to help with your decision, you are merely gathering information.
11. What are the potential gains and benefits? List each of these categories for each choice.
12. What are the potential losses and liabilities? Worst-case scenarios and risks. For each risk, look at how you can protect yourself or your group. For example, David is considering a major expansion of his hair brush company. He looks at the risks and realizes he could end with too many hair brushes in storage. To protect his group, he realizes he needs to expand his marketing and sales before increasing his manufacturing to ensure he won't have a storage problem. Dorothy evaluates the risks of a marriage and realizes a long engagement has a much lower risk of divorce than a fast marriage.
13. What are all the barriers and difficulties for each choice? What gets in the road of each choice. Lack of money? No one else wants it? Not enough time? Fear? David sees months of hard work to cause the expansion. Steve sees no difficulties in buying the BMW or Acura, but lists several problems with repairing his old Toyota. Dorothy realizes Bob might not like the third option of just dating, but would support a long or short engagement.
14. What would be easy and effortless about each choice? Some choices involve no barriers at all.
15. What do I really want? What am I willing to do? What interests me? Which choice turns me on and makes me happiest? Why do I feel like doing it? This last question is the deal breaker. Interest and enthusiasm are vital to a decision ending up being the right decision. An okay decision with lots of interest and enthusiasm is more successful than a brilliant decision with no interest or enthusiasm.
You never regret a correct decision. It stands the test of time. A series of correct decisions will build your certainty and confidence. And once those around you learn you are usually right, they follow your lead without hesitation.
Luckily, self-confidence is easy to obtain.
"SELF-CONFIDENCE is nothing more than belief in one's ability to decide and in one's decisions." -- L. Ron Hubbard Everyone has made bad decisions: choosing friends who stab you in the back, saying the wrong thing to your spouse, spending your money unwisely. Yet to succeed and have self-confidence, you must make decisions.
When you are afraid of decisions, you build up stress, create confusion and make people wait.
When you put off making decisions, you miss important opportunities.
The worst way to make decisions is to take a vote.
Asking for people's opinions is like saying, "I don't have any self-confidence.
Please tell me what to decide." The first thing you need to decide is that you can make good decisions, And how do you make good decisions?
"Given information and the purpose, anybody can make a decision." -- L. Ron Hubbard Decision making is like playing cards. If you know the cards each player is holding, you make great decisions and win all the money.
To make good decisions, you simply need enough information.
15 Questions to Answer Before Making a Decision
You can make all of your own decisions on your own.
From starting a business to changing careers, buying a house to choosing a vacation. Any decision is easy to make.
First, list all of your options.
For example,
Steve is trying to decide about buying a new car. His choice is not "to buy or not to buy." In this case, he actually has three choices:
1) buy the $60,000 new BMW,
2) buy the $30,000 used Acura,
3) fix up and keep the old Toyota.
As another example, Bob asks Dorothy to marry him. Dorothy looks it over and decides she has four choices:
1) Marry Bob immediately,
2) Marry Bob after a long engagement,
3) Don't marry Bob, but keep dating him,
4) Don't marry Bob and stop dating him.
Once you have listed out your options, find the answers to these 15 questions for each of your options.
You will know some of these answers and can find out the others. Somewhere along the line, your best correct decision will be obvious.
1. What is the goal or purpose of each option? Steve writes, "1) The purpose of the BMW is to ride in style and luxury while impressing the heck out of my friends.
2) The purpose of the Acura is to have comfortable transportation without big loan payments.
3) The purpose of the Toyota is to have good reliable transportation at a small cost.
"Dorothy examines the purpose of each of her options. She writes,
"1) The purpose of marrying Bob immediately is to move on with our lives together.
2) The purpose of a long engagement is to leave plenty of room for me to change my mind.
3) The purpose of not marrying, but continuing to date Bob is to learn more about him without a commitment.
4) The purpose of not seeing Bob any longer is to look for someone else.
Well, I can eliminate this last option as I'm sick of looking and really do love Bob."
2. How do the purposes of each option align with your goals? Steve writes, "My goal is to drive something comfortable I can be proud of, but not consume all of my extra money. The Acura fits that goal best." Dorothy writes, "I have the goal to get married, so the first two options line up with that goal."
3. What are the statistics for each choice? Each of your options has statistics. Steve can learn maintenance costs, resale value costs, miles per gallon and so on. Dorothy can check out Bob's statistics in life. How well does he keep his word? How much money does he make? What happened with his past relationships? When hiring an employee, his or her statistics in life and at the last job are important. When deciding on a job, a career, a relationship, a new business or anything, you can find the track records.
4. Finances? Two vital questions: What will each option cost? How much money will each return? The cost is not a barrier if the predicted return is greater than the cost.
5. Sequences? Most people forget to look at the exact steps involved with each solution. For example, you are notified by mail, "Congratulations! You have won either a deluxe AM/FM radio, $500 cash, a 60" TV or a cruise to Alaska!" You decide to go claim your prize. You never read the fine print or ask what steps are involved. After a four-hour Mexico condo timeshare sales pitch, you get a coupon for a cheap radio.
"If I decide to buy the BMW, what happens next?" You might realize you need to wait two months before delivery. You also realize you need to get insurance, pay registration fees, sell your Toyota and so on.
When interviewing job applicants, ask "If I asked you to start on Monday, what would you do?" Some applicants say, "Well, I might not have a car. . ." or "My bird has been sick . . ." A smart job applicant says, "I'll show up five minutes early!"
6. Is this choice legal and ethical? Is it fair to everyone involved? Will you be proud of your choice in the future? Would you have any problem telling a judge or TV reporter about your choice?
7. What is the probability of success? For example, how many BMW or Acura buyers are happy enough to buy a similar car? How long will the Toyota last? Estimate the odds of success for each choice if you have no concrete data. Dorothy estimates the odds of a successful marriage to Bob are higher with her second option, if she has a long engagement, than the other two remaining options.
8. Do I have the resources? Resources include people, space, skill, knowledge, money and time. Do you have the necessary means for each choice?
9. What are the end results? If everything went smoothly, how would each choice turn out? What would the results be? How would it change things in a year or two?
10. What do others want me to do and why? As your choice probably affects other people, you want to know what choice they want you to make. More importantly, why they want you to make it. Make a list of everyone who is affected and what you believe they want. You are not asking them to help with your decision, you are merely gathering information.
11. What are the potential gains and benefits? List each of these categories for each choice.
12. What are the potential losses and liabilities? Worst-case scenarios and risks. For each risk, look at how you can protect yourself or your group. For example, David is considering a major expansion of his hair brush company. He looks at the risks and realizes he could end with too many hair brushes in storage. To protect his group, he realizes he needs to expand his marketing and sales before increasing his manufacturing to ensure he won't have a storage problem. Dorothy evaluates the risks of a marriage and realizes a long engagement has a much lower risk of divorce than a fast marriage.
13. What are all the barriers and difficulties for each choice? What gets in the road of each choice. Lack of money? No one else wants it? Not enough time? Fear? David sees months of hard work to cause the expansion. Steve sees no difficulties in buying the BMW or Acura, but lists several problems with repairing his old Toyota. Dorothy realizes Bob might not like the third option of just dating, but would support a long or short engagement.
14. What would be easy and effortless about each choice? Some choices involve no barriers at all.
15. What do I really want? What am I willing to do? What interests me? Which choice turns me on and makes me happiest? Why do I feel like doing it? This last question is the deal breaker. Interest and enthusiasm are vital to a decision ending up being the right decision. An okay decision with lots of interest and enthusiasm is more successful than a brilliant decision with no interest or enthusiasm.
You never regret a correct decision. It stands the test of time. A series of correct decisions will build your certainty and confidence. And once those around you learn you are usually right, they follow your lead without hesitation.
Have Some Fun!
"An individual who can freely and with a clear heart do things because they're fun is a very sane person." -- L. Ron Hubbard What can you do today, simply because it's fun?
Ten Suggestions
1. Call someone who enjoys laughing with you, just for fun.
2. Watch a comedy television show or a funny movie, just for fun.
3. Act way too dramatic about a problem, just for fun.
4. Do a monkey dance, privately or publically, just for fun.
5. Find some new jokes on the Internet and use them to make the people around you laugh, just for fun.
6. Go roller skating, fly kites or go bowling with your family, just for fun.
7. If you are a perfectionist, deliberately make a mistake, just for fun.
8. Make some loud, enthusiastic sounds. For example, yell "WONDERFUL!" when you hear some good news, just for fun.
9. Take some kids to the zoo, a park or a water slide, just for fun.
10. Find a reason to give someone a high five, a knuckle bump or a back slap, just for fun.
Improve your sanity by having some fun today!
Ten Suggestions
1. Call someone who enjoys laughing with you, just for fun.
2. Watch a comedy television show or a funny movie, just for fun.
3. Act way too dramatic about a problem, just for fun.
4. Do a monkey dance, privately or publically, just for fun.
5. Find some new jokes on the Internet and use them to make the people around you laugh, just for fun.
6. Go roller skating, fly kites or go bowling with your family, just for fun.
7. If you are a perfectionist, deliberately make a mistake, just for fun.
8. Make some loud, enthusiastic sounds. For example, yell "WONDERFUL!" when you hear some good news, just for fun.
9. Take some kids to the zoo, a park or a water slide, just for fun.
10. Find a reason to give someone a high five, a knuckle bump or a back slap, just for fun.
Improve your sanity by having some fun today!
Courage
You are walking down the sidewalk and a guy walks up to you on the street and demands money. You are driving down the road and a police officer pulls you over.
The leader of your group asks you to speak to the entire group.
Your boss or a colleague is so mad at you he or she starts to scream.
Your main investment suddenly crashes. The neighborhood bully wants to talk to you.
As someone who wants to succeed, you need courage to deal with anything that scares you. You must face your fears head on.
You need several types of courage.
The courage to discuss touchy issues.
The courage to be criticized.
The courage to say "no."
The courage to make decisions.
The courage to tell the truth.
The courage to face the facts.
The courage to be in the minority.
The courage to hold a position.
The courage to admit you are wrong.
The courage to trust others.
The courage to accept responsibility.
The courage to disagree.
The courage to change.
Without courage, your success is unlikely.
"A person of high courage is a valuable associate and group member, but a coward is a dangerous liability as a friend."
From Science of Survival by L. Ron Hubbard Each time you use more courage, you enjoy new benefits. You feel calm and peaceful.
Problems that were persisting now tend to disappear.
Your confidence soars to new heights.
Managing your business, job or career becomes easier.
You feel more energy.
You sleep better.
People around you follow your example.
You inspire everyone to be more courageous.
Your family and groups become stronger.
Eight Articles to Help You Increase Your Courage
1. You have more courage if you are passionate. Fire up your purpose. Arouse your intensity. See "The Power of Passion."
2. Make steady, orderly progress. See "Orderly Progress = Power."
3. Communicate, communicate, communicate. You will often find the courage to communicate is all you need to resolve difficult situations. See "When in Doubt, Communicate."
4. Prepare for a confrontation. Write down your plan of action, list all contingencies and set the stage. See "How to Handle Difficult People."
5. Lighten up. Your odds of success are much greater if you are less serious about everything. See "Being Too Serious Can Drive You Crazy."
6. Look at the challenge as an opportunity. Much of what you have accomplished has taken courage. Every time you go through a difficulty, you come out stronger. See "Fishing Story: The Benefits of a Challenge."
7. Do not assume anything. Do not listen to others. Look for yourself.
Horses are often terrified of shallow streams until they step in and feel the water is only an inch deep.
Once you actually talk to a bully, you find it's not such a big deal. See "Operating with the Truth."
The leader of your group asks you to speak to the entire group.
Your boss or a colleague is so mad at you he or she starts to scream.
Your main investment suddenly crashes. The neighborhood bully wants to talk to you.
As someone who wants to succeed, you need courage to deal with anything that scares you. You must face your fears head on.
You need several types of courage.
The courage to discuss touchy issues.
The courage to be criticized.
The courage to say "no."
The courage to make decisions.
The courage to tell the truth.
The courage to face the facts.
The courage to be in the minority.
The courage to hold a position.
The courage to admit you are wrong.
The courage to trust others.
The courage to accept responsibility.
The courage to disagree.
The courage to change.
Without courage, your success is unlikely.
"A person of high courage is a valuable associate and group member, but a coward is a dangerous liability as a friend."
From Science of Survival by L. Ron Hubbard Each time you use more courage, you enjoy new benefits. You feel calm and peaceful.
Problems that were persisting now tend to disappear.
Your confidence soars to new heights.
Managing your business, job or career becomes easier.
You feel more energy.
You sleep better.
People around you follow your example.
You inspire everyone to be more courageous.
Your family and groups become stronger.
Eight Articles to Help You Increase Your Courage
1. You have more courage if you are passionate. Fire up your purpose. Arouse your intensity. See "The Power of Passion."
2. Make steady, orderly progress. See "Orderly Progress = Power."
3. Communicate, communicate, communicate. You will often find the courage to communicate is all you need to resolve difficult situations. See "When in Doubt, Communicate."
4. Prepare for a confrontation. Write down your plan of action, list all contingencies and set the stage. See "How to Handle Difficult People."
5. Lighten up. Your odds of success are much greater if you are less serious about everything. See "Being Too Serious Can Drive You Crazy."
6. Look at the challenge as an opportunity. Much of what you have accomplished has taken courage. Every time you go through a difficulty, you come out stronger. See "Fishing Story: The Benefits of a Challenge."
7. Do not assume anything. Do not listen to others. Look for yourself.
Horses are often terrified of shallow streams until they step in and feel the water is only an inch deep.
Once you actually talk to a bully, you find it's not such a big deal. See "Operating with the Truth."
Money Motivation
Is making money your top goal?
Is it your primary motivation?
If so, you may get rich, but you may not be satisfied with life.
You may not have a good marriage or happy family.
You may not make any difference in the world.
In fact, if money is not your only motivation, you might get rich . . . and be happy! There's a big difference between getting money just to have money, and earning money to finance a greater cause or create a bigger benefit.
How does this work?
"Money is important in the world.
It is the grease on the machinery, not the motors."
"There is nothing wrong with having lots of money.
There is everything wrong with having no money.
But to work only for money is the dreariest thing there is, very short term indeed."
"The weakest motivation is money. People and businesses that are motivated only by money are wobbly people."
"The scale of motivation from the highest to the lowest is: "Duty -- highest "Personal Conviction "Personal Gain "Money -- lowest" -- L. Ron Hubbard.
Let's examine these four types of motivation.
4. Money Motivation (lowest):
You do whatever it takes to get and keep money. You only do things for money. Even if you hate the work, you do what you need to do for the money. You do not care if you do a good job or not, as long as you get the money. You believe that if some action gets you money, it's a good thing, no matter what is involved. Lying, cheating and stealing are okay in your mind, as long as the money comes to you.
3. Personal Gain Motivation:
You work for your own health and happiness. Your personal success, personal power and personal standard of living are more important to you than anything else. You do not care about others' personal gain, just your own.
2. Personal Conviction Motivation:
You are convinced of the value or rightness of an idea or purpose and work to support that idea. For example, you feel strongly about the need for your company's service or product in the world and do all you can to get others to agree with your view. You take great pride in following your ideas.
1. Duty Motivation (highest):
You work for a greater purpose than yourself alone.
You are motivated to improve the world; to support your country as a patriot; or to expand your group as a devoted member.
For example,
people who work for nonprofit organizations, to fight hunger, diseases or poverty are often motivated by duty.
When someone pretends to be motivated by a higher motivation, he or she fails.
For example,
a politician's duty is to support the people he or she represents.
If instead, the politician is found to be using the position just to get money, that politician is kicked out of office. However, a duty-motivated leader who works hard to accomplish that duty, has nothing to hide.
His or her actions are consistently directed toward the purpose or duty. You can see statistical evidence of these accomplishments in terms of lives saved, people helped, children educated and so on. The higher your motivation, the more energy you feel.
You can work longer hours, do a better job and have more fun when you are motivated by a duty or personal conviction. Recommendations Make a list of your purposes that are greater than yourself. Which of these interest and excite you? How can you spend more time working on them?
If you think you are working just for money, take another look at your motivations.
In many cases, you may find you are more motivated to make money for other reasons. These other reasons are your real motivations. Focus on them and strengthen them and you will feel more motivated than ever!
Is it your primary motivation?
If so, you may get rich, but you may not be satisfied with life.
You may not have a good marriage or happy family.
You may not make any difference in the world.
In fact, if money is not your only motivation, you might get rich . . . and be happy! There's a big difference between getting money just to have money, and earning money to finance a greater cause or create a bigger benefit.
How does this work?
"Money is important in the world.
It is the grease on the machinery, not the motors."
"There is nothing wrong with having lots of money.
There is everything wrong with having no money.
But to work only for money is the dreariest thing there is, very short term indeed."
"The weakest motivation is money. People and businesses that are motivated only by money are wobbly people."
"The scale of motivation from the highest to the lowest is: "Duty -- highest "Personal Conviction "Personal Gain "Money -- lowest" -- L. Ron Hubbard.
Let's examine these four types of motivation.
4. Money Motivation (lowest):
You do whatever it takes to get and keep money. You only do things for money. Even if you hate the work, you do what you need to do for the money. You do not care if you do a good job or not, as long as you get the money. You believe that if some action gets you money, it's a good thing, no matter what is involved. Lying, cheating and stealing are okay in your mind, as long as the money comes to you.
3. Personal Gain Motivation:
You work for your own health and happiness. Your personal success, personal power and personal standard of living are more important to you than anything else. You do not care about others' personal gain, just your own.
2. Personal Conviction Motivation:
You are convinced of the value or rightness of an idea or purpose and work to support that idea. For example, you feel strongly about the need for your company's service or product in the world and do all you can to get others to agree with your view. You take great pride in following your ideas.
1. Duty Motivation (highest):
You work for a greater purpose than yourself alone.
You are motivated to improve the world; to support your country as a patriot; or to expand your group as a devoted member.
For example,
people who work for nonprofit organizations, to fight hunger, diseases or poverty are often motivated by duty.
When someone pretends to be motivated by a higher motivation, he or she fails.
For example,
a politician's duty is to support the people he or she represents.
If instead, the politician is found to be using the position just to get money, that politician is kicked out of office. However, a duty-motivated leader who works hard to accomplish that duty, has nothing to hide.
His or her actions are consistently directed toward the purpose or duty. You can see statistical evidence of these accomplishments in terms of lives saved, people helped, children educated and so on. The higher your motivation, the more energy you feel.
You can work longer hours, do a better job and have more fun when you are motivated by a duty or personal conviction. Recommendations Make a list of your purposes that are greater than yourself. Which of these interest and excite you? How can you spend more time working on them?
If you think you are working just for money, take another look at your motivations.
In many cases, you may find you are more motivated to make money for other reasons. These other reasons are your real motivations. Focus on them and strengthen them and you will feel more motivated than ever!
Which is Worse: Terrorists or Fear of Terrorists?
Since 9/11, three years ago, many people are still afraid to fly in airplanes, visit New York or work in tall buildings.
Many Americans are afraid of anyone who comes from the Middle East.
Just as fear of terrorism can affect a country, fear can hurt your success.
Instead of working on your career or future, you get quiet or hide.
If you feel afraid, you make poor decisions.
You fight the wrong targets.
You feel confused.
Fears make you imagine the worse.
You play little movies in your head that have nothing to do with your real life.
Life seems dangerous.
Fear can also hurt your health.
Your body is tense. You sleep poorly.
You do not feel active.
Terrorism is a big fear, especially for many Americans.
So where is the threat?
Personal Experience:
Have you ever seen a terrorist?
Not on the news, but with your own eyes?
If you walked in any direction from your home, how far would you have to walk before you were threatened by a terrorist?
For most of us, it's a very long walk. Have you lost money, peace of mind or personal freedom because of a terrorist?
Or maybe people's FEAR of terrorism is the bigger problem.
Terrorist Purpose:
The only thing terrorists want to do is scare you. That's why they're called terrorists! Have you let terrorists achieve their purpose?
Another question:
Who is helping terrorists with their mission?
Who makes money or gains power from terrorism?
Chaos Merchants L. Ron Hubbard invented a new term: Chaos (disorder, confusion) Merchants (sellers, promoters) to describe a serious problem we have in our society.
Anyone who profits from the suffering of others is a Chaos Merchant.
Anyone who seeks to increase their popularity or power by making the world seem worse than it is is a Chaos Merchant. "It is to their [the Chaos Merchants'] interest to make the environment seem as threatening as possible for only then can they profit." "Look over a newspaper.
Is there anything good on the front page? Rather there is murder and sudden death, disagreement and catastrophe. And even that, bad as it is, is sensationalized to make it seem worse." -- L. Ron Hubbard Chaos Merchants include politicians, lawyers, arms dealers and most of all, news organizations.
Politicians feed on our fears.
For example, a politician makes crime statistics seem bigger than anyone ever imagined. He promises to fight crime better than his opponent. He wins IF he scares enough people.
Weapons dealers also make huge profits by spreading chaos.
For example, an arms dealer tells the leaders of one country, "That country over there has bombs pointed at you. You need to buy more bombs to point at them." Weapons dealers quietly make billions in profits.
Of course, newspapers, news magazines and television news also make big profits by spreading as much bad news as possible.
The more terrifying the news, the more people will watch their television news or buy their papers and magazines.
News shows and newspaper executives say, "If it bleeds, it leads" meaning violent death or injury (blood) is the first story (the lead) for their news show or newspaper. The more vicious the crime, the more attention it receives, and the more money they make.
Terrorist Test Question
If you never watched television news or read articles about terrorist attacks,
why would you be afraid of terrorists?
Would you even know they existed?
More than 126,000 US citizens have died since 9/11/01 in traffic accidents--forty times more than died from terrorism. Are you more afraid of automobiles than you are of terrorists? Maybe you would be if car accidents lead the news each night.
Recommendations:
To be a success, you must conquer your fears. If you feel anxious, afraid or nervous, you must make some changes to your life.
1. Stop believing Chaos Merchants. If you feel fear, notice who might have just sold you some chaos. Instead of believing them, look for yourself.
2. Stop reading about chaos in newspapers and news magazines. Consider cutting out all the news in your life. Instead, read an interesting book, do some work or have some fun.
3. When chaos is on television, watch something else. How does it help you or anyone to know about deaths, danger and catastrophes?
4. Avoid people who like to pass on disturbing "news." Instead, spend time with people who like to pass on cheerful news.
5. After 7-10 days, notice how you feel. If you are not sure if Chaos Merchants have any effect on you, do the above steps for 7-10 days. Then read about chaos in the newspapers and watch all the news. Listen to disturbing people for a few days. Notice how you feel now.
Benefits:
Nearly everyone who breaks off all association with Chaos Merchants notices benefits like these.
* Life becomes more interesting and less dangerous.
* You eat better and sleep better.
* You laugh more easily.
* You feel healthier.
* You feel calmer
Many Americans are afraid of anyone who comes from the Middle East.
Just as fear of terrorism can affect a country, fear can hurt your success.
Instead of working on your career or future, you get quiet or hide.
If you feel afraid, you make poor decisions.
You fight the wrong targets.
You feel confused.
Fears make you imagine the worse.
You play little movies in your head that have nothing to do with your real life.
Life seems dangerous.
Fear can also hurt your health.
Your body is tense. You sleep poorly.
You do not feel active.
Terrorism is a big fear, especially for many Americans.
So where is the threat?
Personal Experience:
Have you ever seen a terrorist?
Not on the news, but with your own eyes?
If you walked in any direction from your home, how far would you have to walk before you were threatened by a terrorist?
For most of us, it's a very long walk. Have you lost money, peace of mind or personal freedom because of a terrorist?
Or maybe people's FEAR of terrorism is the bigger problem.
Terrorist Purpose:
The only thing terrorists want to do is scare you. That's why they're called terrorists! Have you let terrorists achieve their purpose?
Another question:
Who is helping terrorists with their mission?
Who makes money or gains power from terrorism?
Chaos Merchants L. Ron Hubbard invented a new term: Chaos (disorder, confusion) Merchants (sellers, promoters) to describe a serious problem we have in our society.
Anyone who profits from the suffering of others is a Chaos Merchant.
Anyone who seeks to increase their popularity or power by making the world seem worse than it is is a Chaos Merchant. "It is to their [the Chaos Merchants'] interest to make the environment seem as threatening as possible for only then can they profit." "Look over a newspaper.
Is there anything good on the front page? Rather there is murder and sudden death, disagreement and catastrophe. And even that, bad as it is, is sensationalized to make it seem worse." -- L. Ron Hubbard Chaos Merchants include politicians, lawyers, arms dealers and most of all, news organizations.
Politicians feed on our fears.
For example, a politician makes crime statistics seem bigger than anyone ever imagined. He promises to fight crime better than his opponent. He wins IF he scares enough people.
Weapons dealers also make huge profits by spreading chaos.
For example, an arms dealer tells the leaders of one country, "That country over there has bombs pointed at you. You need to buy more bombs to point at them." Weapons dealers quietly make billions in profits.
Of course, newspapers, news magazines and television news also make big profits by spreading as much bad news as possible.
The more terrifying the news, the more people will watch their television news or buy their papers and magazines.
News shows and newspaper executives say, "If it bleeds, it leads" meaning violent death or injury (blood) is the first story (the lead) for their news show or newspaper. The more vicious the crime, the more attention it receives, and the more money they make.
Terrorist Test Question
If you never watched television news or read articles about terrorist attacks,
why would you be afraid of terrorists?
Would you even know they existed?
More than 126,000 US citizens have died since 9/11/01 in traffic accidents--forty times more than died from terrorism. Are you more afraid of automobiles than you are of terrorists? Maybe you would be if car accidents lead the news each night.
Recommendations:
To be a success, you must conquer your fears. If you feel anxious, afraid or nervous, you must make some changes to your life.
1. Stop believing Chaos Merchants. If you feel fear, notice who might have just sold you some chaos. Instead of believing them, look for yourself.
2. Stop reading about chaos in newspapers and news magazines. Consider cutting out all the news in your life. Instead, read an interesting book, do some work or have some fun.
3. When chaos is on television, watch something else. How does it help you or anyone to know about deaths, danger and catastrophes?
4. Avoid people who like to pass on disturbing "news." Instead, spend time with people who like to pass on cheerful news.
5. After 7-10 days, notice how you feel. If you are not sure if Chaos Merchants have any effect on you, do the above steps for 7-10 days. Then read about chaos in the newspapers and watch all the news. Listen to disturbing people for a few days. Notice how you feel now.
Benefits:
Nearly everyone who breaks off all association with Chaos Merchants notices benefits like these.
* Life becomes more interesting and less dangerous.
* You eat better and sleep better.
* You laugh more easily.
* You feel healthier.
* You feel calmer
You Have the Power to Make People Happy
If you make people happy, you can take giant leaps toward your goals.
If you think about it, all your success depends on other people.
People can give you opportunities, money, contracts, praise, support, help and advice.
They can recommend you to other people who also give you what you need. People can also stop your success. They can criticize you, oppose you and close down your progress.
Even if they do not actively oppose you, they can avoid you, hide your options or simply do nothing for you.
"If a person thinks he can be happy without making those around him happy, he's crazy." -- L. Ron Hubbard When you make others happy, you own an important people skill. They want to help you even better, making people happy makes you feel great!
However, mastering the skill to making people happy can be difficult.
Does Changing People Make Them Happy?
Everyone has an identity. It's what they want to be. You can call it their "beingness." Trying to make people change their beingness is a common activity.
For example:
A 10-year-old girl's parents are worried that she loves motorcycles. They are afraid she'll grow up and join a motorcycle gang. So they make her wear dresses and play with dolls. They forbid her from being around motorcycles. A happy girl becomes unhappy.
As another example,
Fred is a computer geek. He likes to wear goofy clothes and tell silly jokes. Fred goes to a college where the popular students criticize him. "Fred, your jokes are so dumb I want to gag." "Fred asked me out to dinner once and I laughed at him." "Check out Fred's striped pants! What an idiot!" Married people often try to change each other's beingness as well. "Jill, I wish you were not so talkative. You're on the phone all day." "Jack, you lazy bum. I wish you were more energetic so you would take me out dancing!" Jack and Jill's marriage is not happy.
How do you feel when someone tries to change your beingness?
Perhaps you feel resentful.
You might even want to attack the person.
You certainly do not feel happier.
Granting Beingness
"The ability to assume or grant (give, allow) beingness is probably the highest of human virtues*.
It is even more important to be able to permit (allow) other people to have beingness than to be able oneself to assume it." -- L. Ron Hubbard (virtue: good or desirable quality)
As you know, you must "be" before "doing" or "having."
For example:
before "having" a good marriage, you must first "be" a good husband or wife. You can then "do" the things necessary to then "have" a great marriage. Per the above quote, a skill more important than assuming your own beingness is permitting others to be whatever they want to be.
For example:
you need to let Fred the computer geek be exactly what he wants to be. You grant him beingness. You say to yourself, "It's completely okay with me for Fred to wear odd clothing and make bad jokes." You then realize Fred is actually a good person. You laugh at his jokes. You admire his purple ties. You become friends. A few years later, you get an executive job at his new multi-million-dollar computer company.
Granting beingness to marriage partners can seem very difficult, but anyone can do it. "Jack, if you want to lie on the couch each night, that's okay with me." "Jill, let's get another phone line so you won't be interrupted with other calls." If you sincerely grant beingness to your spouse, you are both much happier.
For most parents, ensuring their children are happy is their first goal. Granting beingness is essential to this happiness.
For example:
on Monday, little Joey wants to be a fireman. His mom says, "You'll be a great fireman!" On Tuesday, Joey wants to be a basketball star. "I think you'll be a wonderful basketball star!" And so on. Later in life, Joey's mother still grants him beingness. "So you want to quit college to work for a rock band? You'll be setting up the stage? Well, I think you'll be the best stage manager they've ever hired!" One week later, Joey decides he should finish his education and goes back to college. What if Joey's mother had not granted him beingness. "Joey, that's the stupidest decision you've ever made! You must quit this job and go back to college." Of course, Joey can't admit he is wrong about his decision and so sets up stages for rock bands for the next 25 years.
Change the World
Imagine how the world would be if everyone granted beingness to everyone else.
No more discrimination because of the color of your skin.
Women would be treated as fairly in business as men.
Everyone could join whatever religion they preferred.
Career choices would come from the heart.
You and everyone around you could map out their own lives.
You could be whomever you wanted to be.
Such a world is possible. It starts with granting beingness. It leads to massive happiness.
Recommendations
Grant beingness to everyone you meet today.
Let them be whoever they want to be.
Make no attempt to change their beingness.
Grant beingness to someone you already like.
Notice what happens to your feelings and your relationship with this person.
If someone irritates you, grant him or her beingness.
For example:
if another driver on the road makes you mad, grant him beingness.
If someone appears odd or ugly to you, grant this person beingness.
If you hate someone, grant him or her beingness. You can do this right now, without even seeing the person. It may not be easy, but the rewards can be interesting, if not amazing.
Watch how others respond to you when you grant them beingness.
You may discover you now have the skill to make anyone happy.
If you think about it, all your success depends on other people.
People can give you opportunities, money, contracts, praise, support, help and advice.
They can recommend you to other people who also give you what you need. People can also stop your success. They can criticize you, oppose you and close down your progress.
Even if they do not actively oppose you, they can avoid you, hide your options or simply do nothing for you.
"If a person thinks he can be happy without making those around him happy, he's crazy." -- L. Ron Hubbard When you make others happy, you own an important people skill. They want to help you even better, making people happy makes you feel great!
However, mastering the skill to making people happy can be difficult.
Does Changing People Make Them Happy?
Everyone has an identity. It's what they want to be. You can call it their "beingness." Trying to make people change their beingness is a common activity.
For example:
A 10-year-old girl's parents are worried that she loves motorcycles. They are afraid she'll grow up and join a motorcycle gang. So they make her wear dresses and play with dolls. They forbid her from being around motorcycles. A happy girl becomes unhappy.
As another example,
Fred is a computer geek. He likes to wear goofy clothes and tell silly jokes. Fred goes to a college where the popular students criticize him. "Fred, your jokes are so dumb I want to gag." "Fred asked me out to dinner once and I laughed at him." "Check out Fred's striped pants! What an idiot!" Married people often try to change each other's beingness as well. "Jill, I wish you were not so talkative. You're on the phone all day." "Jack, you lazy bum. I wish you were more energetic so you would take me out dancing!" Jack and Jill's marriage is not happy.
How do you feel when someone tries to change your beingness?
Perhaps you feel resentful.
You might even want to attack the person.
You certainly do not feel happier.
Granting Beingness
"The ability to assume or grant (give, allow) beingness is probably the highest of human virtues*.
It is even more important to be able to permit (allow) other people to have beingness than to be able oneself to assume it." -- L. Ron Hubbard (virtue: good or desirable quality)
As you know, you must "be" before "doing" or "having."
For example:
before "having" a good marriage, you must first "be" a good husband or wife. You can then "do" the things necessary to then "have" a great marriage. Per the above quote, a skill more important than assuming your own beingness is permitting others to be whatever they want to be.
For example:
you need to let Fred the computer geek be exactly what he wants to be. You grant him beingness. You say to yourself, "It's completely okay with me for Fred to wear odd clothing and make bad jokes." You then realize Fred is actually a good person. You laugh at his jokes. You admire his purple ties. You become friends. A few years later, you get an executive job at his new multi-million-dollar computer company.
Granting beingness to marriage partners can seem very difficult, but anyone can do it. "Jack, if you want to lie on the couch each night, that's okay with me." "Jill, let's get another phone line so you won't be interrupted with other calls." If you sincerely grant beingness to your spouse, you are both much happier.
For most parents, ensuring their children are happy is their first goal. Granting beingness is essential to this happiness.
For example:
on Monday, little Joey wants to be a fireman. His mom says, "You'll be a great fireman!" On Tuesday, Joey wants to be a basketball star. "I think you'll be a wonderful basketball star!" And so on. Later in life, Joey's mother still grants him beingness. "So you want to quit college to work for a rock band? You'll be setting up the stage? Well, I think you'll be the best stage manager they've ever hired!" One week later, Joey decides he should finish his education and goes back to college. What if Joey's mother had not granted him beingness. "Joey, that's the stupidest decision you've ever made! You must quit this job and go back to college." Of course, Joey can't admit he is wrong about his decision and so sets up stages for rock bands for the next 25 years.
Change the World
Imagine how the world would be if everyone granted beingness to everyone else.
No more discrimination because of the color of your skin.
Women would be treated as fairly in business as men.
Everyone could join whatever religion they preferred.
Career choices would come from the heart.
You and everyone around you could map out their own lives.
You could be whomever you wanted to be.
Such a world is possible. It starts with granting beingness. It leads to massive happiness.
Recommendations
Grant beingness to everyone you meet today.
Let them be whoever they want to be.
Make no attempt to change their beingness.
Grant beingness to someone you already like.
Notice what happens to your feelings and your relationship with this person.
If someone irritates you, grant him or her beingness.
For example:
if another driver on the road makes you mad, grant him beingness.
If someone appears odd or ugly to you, grant this person beingness.
If you hate someone, grant him or her beingness. You can do this right now, without even seeing the person. It may not be easy, but the rewards can be interesting, if not amazing.
Watch how others respond to you when you grant them beingness.
You may discover you now have the skill to make anyone happy.
Orderly Progress = Power
Many of those who wish to succeed find relief and an improved attitude from this quote: "THE TOTALITY OF POWER IS ORDERLY PROGRESS." -- L. Ron Hubbard Discouragement and frustration from not making your goals quickly enough are resolved through orderly progress.
Do you ever get frustrated because your life is not the way you want it?
Perhaps you are trying to skip steps necessary to reaching your goals.
Instead of demanding PERFECTION TODAY!, focus on orderly progress and your odds of success are much higher.
Do you ever feel overwhelmed?
If so, orderly progress becomes even more important.
Confronting huge amounts of work is not overwhelming when you see yourself making orderly progress, even in small amounts, toward your goals.
Do you ever feel like you are losing ground or failing?
If you map out your actual goal and move one inch closer on a regular basis, you have new power.
Do you ever feel like you are treading water and going nowhere?
It is time for you to focus on some orderly progress.
How do you eat an elephant? How do you move a mountain?
How to you reach huge goals?
One mouthful, one rock and one step at a time.
Examples:
giving a positive impression to one more person; learning one more new skill; lessening one bad habit, investing a few more dollars in savings.
Daily progress in a specific direction creates long-term power when the progress is constant and orderly.
If you have been dissatisfied with your progress in life, or if you feel discouraged, overwhelmed or frustrated, make a list of orderly steps you can take every day and every week. Calm, direct, orderly steps.
Once you have your strategy worked out there is no need to worry about the past or the future-just concentrate on the present; on the steps of this plan. By putting order into your progress, nothing and nobody can stop you.
A mountain creek is more powerful than a granite boulder when the creek slowly and surely wears the boulder down.
Orderly progress toward your goals starts with small, positive steps.
You can generate new power from this week forward. Deciding to have orderly progress is the first step.
Do you ever get frustrated because your life is not the way you want it?
Perhaps you are trying to skip steps necessary to reaching your goals.
Instead of demanding PERFECTION TODAY!, focus on orderly progress and your odds of success are much higher.
Do you ever feel overwhelmed?
If so, orderly progress becomes even more important.
Confronting huge amounts of work is not overwhelming when you see yourself making orderly progress, even in small amounts, toward your goals.
Do you ever feel like you are losing ground or failing?
If you map out your actual goal and move one inch closer on a regular basis, you have new power.
Do you ever feel like you are treading water and going nowhere?
It is time for you to focus on some orderly progress.
How do you eat an elephant? How do you move a mountain?
How to you reach huge goals?
One mouthful, one rock and one step at a time.
Examples:
giving a positive impression to one more person; learning one more new skill; lessening one bad habit, investing a few more dollars in savings.
Daily progress in a specific direction creates long-term power when the progress is constant and orderly.
If you have been dissatisfied with your progress in life, or if you feel discouraged, overwhelmed or frustrated, make a list of orderly steps you can take every day and every week. Calm, direct, orderly steps.
Once you have your strategy worked out there is no need to worry about the past or the future-just concentrate on the present; on the steps of this plan. By putting order into your progress, nothing and nobody can stop you.
A mountain creek is more powerful than a granite boulder when the creek slowly and surely wears the boulder down.
Orderly progress toward your goals starts with small, positive steps.
You can generate new power from this week forward. Deciding to have orderly progress is the first step.
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