As you know, you cause some things and you are the effect of other things.
You could say that when you are causing things, you are CAUSE.
When someone else causes an effect on you, you could say that you are EFFECT.
Thousands of people buy motivation tapes because they want the tapes to make them be EFFECT.
They want the speaker on the tape to fire them up and get them going. They believe the tape gives them energy. Other people believe drugs will motivate them. They want to swallow a pill and then be energized. They want to be EFFECT of the drug.
Employees who sit around waiting for the boss to motivate them are also EFFECT.
Bosses hate the burden of having to motivate everyone. These lazy employees prefer to be EFFECT of the boss and wait for him or her to make them work. The truth is, everyone can be the source of their own motivation! They can be at CAUSE.
"Motivation is in the future. It's 'What do I want?' 'What do we want?' That's cause. And if it's interesting, it sort of pulls us forward to it." -- L. Ron Hubbard
For example,
you may have heard the story about three men who were building a stone church. When asked what they were doing, the first man said he was breaking stones, the second said he was making a living and the third said he was building a cathedral. Which of the men do you think had the most motivation?
What is the in the future for your activities?
What do you want in your future?
If you're not sure, you won't be motivated.
If you're afraid you'll get something other than what you want, you won't be motivated.
If you have little hope you'll make it, you won't be motivated.
If you doubt your ability to get what you want, you won't be motivated.
If you have nothing you want in the future, you will not be motivated.
If your future is not very interesting to you, you will not be motivated.
On the other hand, if you spell out exactly what you want, you are CAUSE.
If it's interesting, you are motivated! Of course, you need to have hope that you will make it as well as confidence that you can make it happen.
But the first step is to decide what you want.
For example,
Jill wakes up and thinks, "I'm going to run my own very successful company some day!" She jumps out of bed and races off to work.
Chris wakes up and thinks, "I'm going to be late if I don't get out of bed." He can barely pull his covers off. Recommendations
1. Stop expecting anything or anyone to motivate you. No longer think, "I'll really get excited after someone gives me a . . ." "I won't work hard until . . ." "My life will change for the better when someone else . . ." Instead, take responsibility for being CAUSE and for motivating yourself. "I'm the one who will get me excited. I'll work hard to reach my goals. I'm changing my life for the better."
2. Write down everything you want in the future. What do you want today? This week? This year? This lifetime? Keep writing down what you want until you start to feel motivated.
3. Look for things you want that are also interesting to you. For example, "Pay off my debts" may not be as interesting or as motivational as "Become a debt-free millionaire!"
Is It Ever a Waste of Time to Love Someone?
There are reasons why God allows some things to happen in our lives, even those that seemed like very dark times for us.
For example, one reason why we find it so hard to forget a previous relationship is that we can’t accept the fact that it could all just end that way and all our efforts, all our time, all our tears and suffering had just gone to waste.
God wastes nothing however, especially our tears. We don’t know the end yet, especially within the broad perspective of eternity.
The other person may not appreciate everything you have done for him/her now, but it is certain that you have made an impact in his/her life. That impact will play a part in the grander scheme of things.
You’ll never know how he/she shall one day remember everything that has been done for him/her, how he/she was loved. At present, he/she may really feel such a deep craving to be loved but fears so much to be abandoned such that he/she consequently pushes away those who desire to love him/her.
But if you were able to show that person that you have been there for him/her at one point in his/her life, one day, God may let him/her see all the blessings sent his/her way, including the people who loved him/her even though his/her heart was still closed and unable to receive the love being offered him/her.
It’s never a waste to love.
For example, one reason why we find it so hard to forget a previous relationship is that we can’t accept the fact that it could all just end that way and all our efforts, all our time, all our tears and suffering had just gone to waste.
God wastes nothing however, especially our tears. We don’t know the end yet, especially within the broad perspective of eternity.
The other person may not appreciate everything you have done for him/her now, but it is certain that you have made an impact in his/her life. That impact will play a part in the grander scheme of things.
You’ll never know how he/she shall one day remember everything that has been done for him/her, how he/she was loved. At present, he/she may really feel such a deep craving to be loved but fears so much to be abandoned such that he/she consequently pushes away those who desire to love him/her.
But if you were able to show that person that you have been there for him/her at one point in his/her life, one day, God may let him/her see all the blessings sent his/her way, including the people who loved him/her even though his/her heart was still closed and unable to receive the love being offered him/her.
It’s never a waste to love.
I Believe that there is a Hunger in each and every Person to be Loved.
Our question now is why we can’t often feel that we are loved as much as we wanted to be loved. Why can’t we fill that hunger to the full? Why can’t we feel that we are truly loved?
1. Because we are not showing others who we really are
Unless we are able to show our true selves, we can’t achieve true intimacy. Even if we get others to love the masks we wear, we would still feel lonely because we know that the person they love isn’t the person we really are.
This is the reason why many books about making someone fall in love with you or getting your ex back doesn’t work.
These books tell only half the story. They cater to what the other person wants to see, not to how we are truly seen.
If you want to be loved as you are, you have to have the courage to reveal who you really are and to be loved for that, warts and all, strengths and weaknesses, beauty and flaws.
2. Because we are not allowing ourselves to receive love
There are many of us who would rather give love than receive love. It is good if we are not really starving for love deep within and if we are overflowing with love from a greater Source, from God. But if we are merely trying to hide that hunger and if we are afraid to ask for what we need, how could we ever receive love? Sometimes, we also have to give others the chance to care for us. Let us not let our pride get in the way of receiving love.
3. Because we are not acknowledging other people’s ways of loving us
We may not feel loved because we are not acknowledging other people’s ways of loving us. Other people may not always say that they love us, but they may show it by their works, by their loyalty and devotion. We may not always receive the most expensive gifts, but our beloved may already be giving us his very best. There are different ways of showing love, but only we could decide if we are going to receive the love we are shown.
4. Because we devote more time and attention to people who don’t really care for us
Why do we spend so much time with people who don’t really care for us? We build our world around these people and then feel shattered when we can’t receive from them all that we have expected from the start. When they tell us they don’t care, we say to ourselves, “nobody really cares”, when we know that isn’t true. Only a few people didn’t care, and their coldness blinded our eyes from receiving what other people around us can still offer us. Let us learn to let go of those people who don’t really love us and let us give more time to those who truly care.
Love isn’t always that far away.
We may just be looking at different things or we may not be looking closely enough to
see it.
1. Because we are not showing others who we really are
Unless we are able to show our true selves, we can’t achieve true intimacy. Even if we get others to love the masks we wear, we would still feel lonely because we know that the person they love isn’t the person we really are.
This is the reason why many books about making someone fall in love with you or getting your ex back doesn’t work.
These books tell only half the story. They cater to what the other person wants to see, not to how we are truly seen.
If you want to be loved as you are, you have to have the courage to reveal who you really are and to be loved for that, warts and all, strengths and weaknesses, beauty and flaws.
2. Because we are not allowing ourselves to receive love
There are many of us who would rather give love than receive love. It is good if we are not really starving for love deep within and if we are overflowing with love from a greater Source, from God. But if we are merely trying to hide that hunger and if we are afraid to ask for what we need, how could we ever receive love? Sometimes, we also have to give others the chance to care for us. Let us not let our pride get in the way of receiving love.
3. Because we are not acknowledging other people’s ways of loving us
We may not feel loved because we are not acknowledging other people’s ways of loving us. Other people may not always say that they love us, but they may show it by their works, by their loyalty and devotion. We may not always receive the most expensive gifts, but our beloved may already be giving us his very best. There are different ways of showing love, but only we could decide if we are going to receive the love we are shown.
4. Because we devote more time and attention to people who don’t really care for us
Why do we spend so much time with people who don’t really care for us? We build our world around these people and then feel shattered when we can’t receive from them all that we have expected from the start. When they tell us they don’t care, we say to ourselves, “nobody really cares”, when we know that isn’t true. Only a few people didn’t care, and their coldness blinded our eyes from receiving what other people around us can still offer us. Let us learn to let go of those people who don’t really love us and let us give more time to those who truly care.
Love isn’t always that far away.
We may just be looking at different things or we may not be looking closely enough to
see it.
Bridges in Life..
In life, bridges connect us to the future.
They provide passage to carry us forward to new discoveries, new relationships and new opportunities.
But crossing a bridge means making a change, and change can be uncomfortable.
We're torn between staying where we are and moving forward into the unknown.
And often, when given the option to turn back to what is safe and comfortable... we do.
And that's why we must reach deep inside and gather up the courage to burn old bridges so that we can move forward and cross new ones.
What lies ahead may feel uncertain, but as C.S. Lewis said:
"There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind."
So what bridges do you need to burn?
And what bridges may be waiting to lead you to new discoveries?
All it takes is learning which bridge to cross... and which one to burn.
Dare To Do Something Differently
Some people think that if you dare to try something new or take a risk in order to improve your life, that you are actually making your life more difficult.
So we tell ourselves it's easier to stick with the status quo because it is "what we know."
It's familiar, known and predictable.
But what if "what you know" isn't working for you anymore?
In truth, the hard part is continuing to live in a way you've outgrown.
If you really want to create change in your life, you've got to dare to do things differently.
Ask yourself right now:
"What do I have to gain by daring to do something differently?"
And then do it! YEE HOO!
Do something (ANYTHING!) differently today, no matter how small.
So we tell ourselves it's easier to stick with the status quo because it is "what we know."
It's familiar, known and predictable.
But what if "what you know" isn't working for you anymore?
What if what you know will only get you as far as you are right now?
You already know what is going to happen if you continue with the same habits, patterns, behaviors and thoughts that are no longer serving you.
In truth, the hard part is continuing to live in a way you've outgrown.
If you really want to create change in your life, you've got to dare to do things differently.
Ask yourself right now:
"What do I have to gain by daring to do something differently?"
And then do it! YEE HOO!
Do something (ANYTHING!) differently today, no matter how small.
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